Book Review – The Four Factors
The Four Factors
By Ron Gentile, Ph.D.
Published by: CreateSpace
Available from Amazon.com
Reviewed by Jeanine Swatton
Should You Stay or Should you Go? Book Review: The Four Factors by Dr. Ron Gentile.
Should You Stay or Should You Go?
Is it love? Is it lust? Is this relationship a total bust? How many times have we gone through the never ending cycle of deciding whether to stay or go in a relationship? Stop asking these questions to friends and family and become your own relationship expert!
Dr. Ron Gentile, author of “The Four Factors” provides a simple and systematic approach to help you with your dating and relationship issues. This fabulous book is geared towards people who are looking for love as well as people who are currently in a relationship. In relationships, we laugh and cry and try to figure out whether to say goodbye. Dr. Gentile closes that gap in the decision making process to the point where we figure out whether we should stay or go.
Dr. Gentile breaks down the relationship puzzle into four basic factors: physical attraction, communication, personality and values. These four categories are great measurement tools in evaluating your past, current or future relationships!
One aspect of the physical attraction factor Dr. Gentile discusses is kissing. He describes “romantic kissing” to be a core manifestation of physical attraction. He views kissing to be used as “non-verbal communication of the feelings.” He shares his own hilarious kissing experiences where he felt as though he was experiencing a medieval joust or tonsil attack. After many unsuccessful attempts in adjusting his mate’s kissing style, he gave up and moved on.
Dr. Gentile also emphasizes the importance of great communication which brings you closer to your partner. Good communication is known as a “dance made for two.” His experience with a partner who would never say anything about how she felt about a particular situation with him led to a failed relationship. Without communication, the relationship could not blossom into a forever dance.
Personality matching is yet another key component. Are you dating an energy vampire who drains you of your positive energy or do you find this person to be motivating and inspiring to be around? By applying the factor method and writing down how you feel when you are around them, you can determine whether you and your potential mate connect well together.
Although you could potentially match well in these three areas, if your core values are not aligned with each other, there is no future. For example, if your spirituality is a key focus in your life while your partner is not spiritual at all, how can you grow spirituality?
Overall, Dr. Gentile mentions that there is no right or wrong. The question is, “Is this person a good fit for me?” Rather than spending countless hours analyzing and talking about your relationship – be your own relationship expert and pick up his book today! Thank you, Dr. Gentile, for empowering our readers to create our “happily ever after” moments in life.
Sending you love and light as well as fabulous relationship advice.
About Jeanine Swatton
Hi, my name is Jeanine Swatton and I am the founder of iSwatton.com, a software startup focusing on web applications and mobile applications. I am also an advocate for stopping domestic violence as well as child abuse.
I was born and raised outside of Boston and currently live in Dublin, California. I have a Bachelor’s Degree from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst and a Masters Degree in Computer Science from Boston University. I am currently pursuing another Master’s Degree in Cyber Security at the University of Maryland.
I am a certified NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) Practitioner, Intuitive Life Coach, as well as a certified PCR (Psycho-Cellular Repatterning) Spiritual/Energy Healer.
On my free time, I counsel men and women on establishing and maintaining healthy relationships. My interests include anything involving the spiritual and psychic realm.
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